What many music makes events not feel good?

A friend asked me what makes events not feel good? I wrote this list as a response to him and myself to initiate different events in the future:

• it’s late at night
• there’s a lot of vape smoke
• the music is often too loud in the highs and mids
• there is little purpose besides music so it’s hard to start conversations which makes me stand around alone and reduces collective purpose and that’s not fun after some time
• the purpose is unclear, and will resort to standard dance drug time (which is okay, but for me it’s not enough)
• it’s usually not designed for bodily comfort: e.g. other body movement than sitting and standing and dancing (e.g. stretching, strong muscle usage)
• most drinks are cold, contain alcohol and sugar
• very few comforting drinks
• almost never any nutritious food or drinks
• there are NO BRAKES; no quiet times

after reflecting on this, i think it’s like a medicine helpful to certain people but im in a place in life where this generic medicine is becoming less healing and i’m looking for new medicine and it’s harder to find it